This is the original 'anon'.
Thank you for your posts.. to the other 'anon'. Yes, we're in the same situation.
We transferred a long while ago and also leased our property out at about a 50% loss.
We had the same thought that we'd use reserves and live conservatively at our new duty station. Unfortunately, our tenants constantly called about repairs that were very much 'gray area'. Our property manager received estimates but I am sure that they were inflated. And, we're not there to discern the true need and too far away to drive out to do the repairs ourselves. Those excess expenses (that drained our reserves very quickly) were what sent us over the edge where we just couldn't recover.
We are now putting the house on the market as a short sale. We just went in default, as we were told to stop payments. We notified his command right before this occured.
The VA counselor was very knowledgable regarding the short sale/deed in lieu process, but I now have to call them back today. The lender called me yesterday to say they were mailing my short sale 'letter'. They added a dig that 'the loan is in default and unless we make it current, they *can forward our account up to the foreclosure dept'.
VR SAM, I thought that I read that lenders freeze or give special forbearance on accounts when they are listed the 90 days as a short sale. Are they threatning me or is there merit to this? If we short sale or deed in lieu, I believe worst case he may have a conditional clearance (up for review every 6 months?) If it slips into foreclosure before we have the opportunity to file a deed in lieu, I just don't understand. Isn't it more cost effective for the lender/investor to wait out for the short sale/deed in lieu, especially as the VA said that they would take the property back, pay out to the lender and charge it against our entitlement.
Anon - also what you mentioned regarding risk. I know! It's interesting as a service member stressed with a home that they can not sell out of state b/c of a transfer vs. a service member that has finally rid themselves of that home and has a regular budget again - who should they be more concerned of? Personally, before this we had excellent credit, and had never been late with any creditor. Spouse also has an excellent service record, and they have acknowledged this. Without the house, we are back to a household plan of action, where we have money for needs, some wants, and savings.